3 signs of stress your dog shows you every day

Your dog can't tell you "I'm tired, leave me alone" or "this person makes me feel insecure". But it does tell you. All the time. Through body language.

The problem is that most owners misread these signals or miss them completely. Not because they don't care — but because nobody ever taught them what to look for.

In this article I'll show you 3 subtle signs of stress you've probably already seen this week. And didn't know what they meant.

1. Whale eye — "the whale's eye"

It's the moment when the dog turns its head to the side, but its eyes stay fixed on a person, a child or another dog. The white of the eye becomes visible — a crescent of sclera that, in a dog, never shows up by accident.

You see it most often when a child leans in to hug it. When you take a close-up photo of it. When you trim its coat at home. When it's on the couch with a toy between its paws and someone comes closer.

The common interpretation is "my dog feels guilty" or "he's paying attention". No. He's frozen. According to Aloff (2005), it's the last subtle warning before a defensive reaction. And most "no warning" bites were, in fact, preceded by exactly this signal — ignored.

What to do: create space. Move the child, leave the toy, cut the grooming short. Don't insist. Your dog isn't refusing attention — it's asking you for distance.

2. Lip lick — "licking the lips for no reason"

Your dog quickly licks its upper lip or the tip of its nose. There's no food around. No water. Often, if you look closely, you'll also notice the ears slightly pulled back.

It's what ethology calls a "displacement" behaviour — a redirected activity that shows up when the dog is in internal conflict. Its nervous system has switched on. It's a pre-freeze.

A study published in the Journal of Veterinary Behavior (Mariti et al., 2012) shows something unsettling: only about 23% of owners recognise lip licking as a stress signal, while over 70% correctly identify a growl. In other words, we only read the late warnings. The early ones — we miss.

It shows up most often at the vet's office, when a stranger approaches head-on, during grooming, or when you raise your voice. Ask yourself what happened in the last 5 seconds. That's where the answer is.

3. Paw lift — "lifting a paw for no purpose"

Your dog lifts one of its front paws to chest height. It isn't walking. It isn't playing. It isn't pointing at a bird. It simply holds the paw in the air, for a few seconds, while its gaze stays fixed on something.

It's a form of partial freeze. Selective motor inhibition — a sign that it's processing an uncertainty, a conflict, a stimulus it doesn't yet know how to classify.

The trap is that it looks cute. Many owners read it as affection, pet the dog, praise it — without realising that they are actually reinforcing a pattern of uncertainty.

In breeds that aren't genetic pointers — Golden, Labrador, shepherds, mixed breeds — a paw lift without context is almost certainly a stress signal. It shows up when meeting an unknown dog on the leash, in new environments, or when you show it an object whose purpose isn't clear to it.

What to do: pause. 5-10 seconds. Let it decide on its own whether to move forward relaxed — and only then praise it.

These are three of the most common — and most often missed — canine stress signals. Your dog has probably shown you at least one this week.

Observe. Just observe.

Sources

• Aloff B. (2005). Canine Body Language: A Photographic Guide. Dogwise Publishing.

• Mariti C. et al. (2012). "Perception of dogs' stress by their owners". Journal of Veterinary Behavior, 7(4), 213-219.

• Bradshaw J. (2011). In Defence of Dogs. Allen Lane.

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With care for your dog,

Petre ROMAN

This material is for educational purposes and does not replace a consultation with a veterinarian or with your own doctor. If you have a concern about your health or your dog's health, see a specialist.